Have you been able to accept your partner mostly without wanting to change him or her?
Is your partner generally thoughtful?
Does he/she talk to you about important decisions?
Are you sure you both do/do not want children?
If you have children, how sure are you that the way you observe them treat your children is as respectful and caring as when you are not there?
Can the two of you raise or are you raising the children as a team in relative agreement on strategies and major decisions?
Is your partner happy for you to spend time away, for example for a business trip, a holiday with friends, a workshop, etc?
Reviewing your relationship now – have you overall felt happy/?
Are you happy with your partner’s values and beliefs?
If you’re partner does not tend to say: “I love you”, do you feel loved, even though they do not use those words?
Is your partner interested in what makes you tick?
Would you trust your partner if they called you to say they can’t get home for what appears to be a good reason, e.g. stuck at work, at the airport, missed a train, etc?
Do you feel physically attracted to your partner?
With regards to desire – do you feel that your partner wants you more than she or he needs you?
Can you have a decent conversation about the things you disagree on?
In disagreements are you able to genuinely make up relatively quickly?
Could you ‘cope’, without blame, if they became dependent on you for a period, because of a physical condition?
Could you ‘cope’, without blame, if they became dependent for a period, because of mental or psychological condition?
Does your partner contribute toward joint bills equally, relative to their earnings/situation?
Are you able to let your partner have the space and time to pursue their interests without your feeling neglected (within reason)?
Do you agree on what ‘within reason’ means?
Would he or she support you if you had to take care of/spend more time with your family?
Has your partner introduced you to her/his friends?
Would your partner be understanding if you suddenly had to work longer hours/work at the weekend because you felt it would further your career or allow you to change direction?
Do your arguments start harshly with much negativity, such as destructive criticism and sarcasm?
Do complaints about your behavior turn into criticism about you as a person?
